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Is my anger out of control?

  • Does a rude comment make you punch someone in the face?
  • Does a bad grade make you lash out at your teacher?
  • Does missing the bus make you break things?

Feeling angry can range from feeling mildly irritated to feeling intense rage. Everyone gets angry from time to time and it is a perfectly normal response to something that upsets or annoys you.

However, how you express or ‘get rid of’ your anger can be a problem.

Do I need help with my anger?

Hitting or hurting others, shouting at others, breaking things or losing control when you are angry may all be signs of a problem.

There’s lots of support available if you think you need help with anger management.

Understanding a bit more about yourself and about feeling angry may help you manage better.  

The Mind and Young Minds  websites provides useful information on anger issues and ways to better manage your anger. 

Talk to someone you know and trust

It’s a good idea to speak to someone you know and trust about your feelings. This could be a friend, family member, teacher or mentor-person. It feels good to offload and the other person may offer you good advice, or help you find the right support.

If you feel it difficult to talk to someone, that it's too hard to explain, or that they won't understand, or feel the same, the Young Minds website has some great tips to help you.

Get professional support

If anger is a big issue for you, and puts yourself or others at risk, you may need professional help.

Talk to someone at school, or to your GP, about making a referral to Merton Child & Adolescent Mental Health Service (CAMHS).

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